In a new relationship we usually try to put our best foot forward. We don't want to pull all of our skeletons out of the closet and introduce them, so we keep them tucked away for a rainy day. Usually this is not a big deal, but there are some issues that cannot stay tucked away in the recesses of the closet and our mind. There are some pieces of information that we must share as soon as things start to get physical or serious. One of those things is the admission that you have a sexually transmitted disease.
Now, you don't have to go around with a sign on your chest that you have a sexually transmitted disease, but when you start spending time with someone and things start to heat up, that is when you need to talk about it. You may be really worried about how the person is going to respond, but it's something that you have to give them a choice about. Many people will accept the fact that they will need to be more careful and some will not, but this should be their choice and by giving them that choice you are respecting them and giving them an option that you didn't have.
You may be a bit worried about how they will react, but you need to have the talk sooner rather than later when you can tell that the relationship is headed in a physical direction, and you shouldn't wait until you are in the moment. What you could do is buy some condoms and then sit down with your love interest and tell them that you have something important to talk to them about. Just be straight forward about it. For instance you could say, "I wanted you to know before things went any further that I was diagnosed with herpes last year," give them a second to process this information before you go on. Then tell them, "It is contagious but as long as we use protection it doesn't have to put a damper on our relationship."
You may get a serious of reactions from your love interest. In fact, you may have to give them some time to process all of the information. It could be a few days until you really have an idea of how they feel.
In the beginning they may be too shocked to really respond, so don't press the issue. Allow them to feel through this revelation in their own time and in their own way. Know that the worst thing that could happen is that they don't want to be with you anymore, and it's better that you learn this before you become anymore invested either emotionally or with any more of your time.
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Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance Free online dating for singles.
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